What Scott needs to do if he can is to take this coach to soccer school when the refs and coaches have a friendly.
At a solid 6'0" 240#s, Scott likes his chances against some of these coaches. Why don't we take this thread on another tangent. Why is it that as a group, we allow coaches to act irresponsibly while on the bench. It seems to me a no brainer that if as a group, we nipped this problem in the bud, it would make for a much more enjoyable atmosphere for all and I'd bet we'd retain a great deal more of our younger referees! Comments?? Scott
ref responsibilities As long as you know the laws, are fit and committed who cares what coaches think. Many think a loss is a major tragedy and a reflection on them. They need their teams to play with passion and except the outcomes. Luck determines winners. But I to wish teams would play without whining for calls. The dirty player should be sent to sit in the car so that the real sportmen can play the game as it was meant to be played. The ref is not the 12th man. If the ref is incompetant than he should pack it in or take steps to get better. Hang in there, that's part of the fun of being a referee. I get a rush from the tension and put it into overdrive when it gets intense. Find a mentor to confide in. Thank god you are not reffing in Italy, where they anxiously wait for the ref to make a bad call so they can despise him.
Here in America..... Fortunately we do not ref in Italy. But here in America, I feel that we may be sending the wrong message by constantly being told/asked to "turn a deaf ear" to sideline antics. In doing so, aren't we indirectly telling the coaches that what they have done so far is "within bounds"? Then what happens to the poor soul who lets the coach know right away that he is acting irresponsibly? I'll tell you what happens, he gets branded as an unbending iron fisted referee and it becomes the referee who is in the wrong. IMHO, there are many coaches who go WAY over the line, and unfortunately, too many referees who allow it to happen. Scott
I once reffed a U-10 game where both coaches and the parents were acting like it was the World Cup, and every call I made was being loudly questioned. I finally stopped the match and called both coaches out onto the field. I asked them, quietly, to remember where they were and to think about the example they were setting for the kids. It actually worked. They didn't give me any trouble after that. Don't know if this would work in a higher level match.