In a pickle; my pregnant wife is due June 14th or Italy USA June 17th?

difficult question.

I think the only person who can answer this question is you yourself.

You need to take this decision. We can give you advices, however, only you can make the final decision.

How important is world cup and how important is the birth of your child? You need to set priority.

In our life we always need to take some difficult decisions too.

As a woman, I would say you should stay with your wife and help her. She will need you.

It is tought decision.

I´m sorry I could not help you.

bltleo
Cologne

 

Its a purely personal question and one that only you can answer for yourself. That said, the fact that your wife is so understanding that she is even willing to consider allowing you to be more than 30 minutes away from her at any point during that period is very impressive.


For me, experiencing the birth or my first child is a memory that I would never, ever want to miss and two days seems to be cutting it awfully close. Certainly, I will be flying over to Germany alone and leaving my two young children with my wife but I don't think I'd be willing to risk it if I were in your shoes -- that 5 and 1/2 hours can go awfully fast if she has a quick labor.

You could always watch the Czech match on TV and then go live to the Ghana match after your child is born. Regardless of your decision, congratulations on the impending birth and good wishes for a healthy, beautiful child. Good luck with your decision.

 

Based on the nature of your dilemma, I'm not sure Bigsoccer is best place to come to for advice.

That said, my advice would be to stay home and watch on TV.

 

Congrats in advance Taylor! I would hold on to that ticket and have them induce labor on wed the 14th (wink).

That's how the rich preggos do it here in Atlanta- have your birth scheduled!

But seriously, as one of your fellow "black monday" compatriots let me know if you decide not to go. I only got Czechia and Ghana tix. If not we'll see you there!

 

I think the US actually winning the World Cup is the closest feeling I would ever have that compares to being present at the birth of my three children. Seriously.

For a myriad of reasons (and I'm not some overly sentimental 'girly man'), you really would be a better person for staying with your wife. That's not me being judgemental either. It's none of my business but you asked so in the long run, I say stay home.

 

1. You probably should've thought of this back in August. Hey, wait a minute, wouldn't this put approximate conception date about...oh...the US/Mexico WCQ?

2. Speaking as a chick who's a more involved fan than her husband: seriously, dude, stay home with your wife. There will be other games, even other WC games against heavy duty opponents. Stick around the hospital and read up on things to do with a 4 year old in South Africa.

 

Well, somebody has got to be on the pro-football side; might as well be me.

First, the odds are fairly low that she'll actually have the child during the game. Remember that the due date is the statistical median at 40 weeks. Most mothers deliver in a 2 week period around that. First births are normally later. Second, the normal labor is greater than 12 hours from inception of contractions until actual delivery. Again, this is normally longer on the first birth.

I'd plan to go and go ahead with the trip unless she's in labor at the time. If your future son/daughter has any sense of decorum s/he will wait. Just have a contigency plan to get back in a hurry if need be.

"Liebchen, unser Kind kommt!"
"How far apart are the contractions?"
"12 minuten."
"Okay, there's only 30 minutes left in the game, I'll be back by the time you're fully dialated..."

 

Dude

Take her with you .Just have her give birth at the game(preferably at halftime)that way you won't miss one bit of the action!

Just kidding man

Stay home and bond with your child...

 

I've been to 3 World Cups and have 2 kids. The World Cups were great, but the kids are 1 zillion times better. Missing the birth of my child, at least for me, would be devastating, and not worth any risk no matter how small. I'm bringing my kids to Germany so it's the best of both worlds this time.

I'd suggest staying home and plan on bringing your 4 year old to S.Africa in 2012 for a great experience. If that doesn't work out, your baby will hopfully live for another 20 World Cups.

 

AHA! Now here is something with which I have tons of experience. Y'ever see the Simpsons episode where Krusty has the telethon for the kids who're chronically motion sick? That's me! I've gotten carsick from walking. Normally, 25 mg of meclizine HCl per day does the trick, but with a bun in the oven, you've gotta be careful about any kind of meds. So may I suggest ginger? There's a really swell kind of ginger candy called Ginger Chews, they're super strong and good for keeping things down, as it were. If she likes 'em, there might be hope for you yet.

 

Memo to self:

Wear rubber 08/1/2009 - 10/31/2009.

 

Incidentally, the Mythbusters, a really geeky tv show here in the states (which I love) tested the myth of curing motion sickness with various home remedies, and in their very unscientific method (ontly two people tested), ginger was the only thing that prevented motion sickness in the two individuals. Everything else didn't work at all for either individual, and one (a placebo, in fact) worked on one of the test subject, but not the other.

 

lmao...nice.

 

What a loaded question.

Well, how many more kids are you planning to have?

The U.S. may only play Italy in the WC once in your lifetime, but you can have a lot of kids. Sure your wife may never forgive you for it, but...

I hope she knows how torn you are about this and how much you love soccer.... It'll sure make a great story for junior when you take him to the WC in 2018.

 

Here $0.02 from the proud father of two little whippersnappers.

Keep the ticket. You can most likely go to both matches. Make sure your wife stays fairly active as you approach the due date. If so, I'd be willing to wager that she'll have the little one around the 14th or 15th. Believe me, you'll need some time to yourself considering what you have coming to you.

Assuming the baby arrives before the matches, the important thing is to make sure your wife has some help. If she has to have an episiotomy, she's going to be a little sore.

But what if the baby doesn't arrive by then? By all means, don't miss the birth. It's an incredible experience. But I wouldn't let a five hour return trip bother you. My wife was in labor for about 14 hours with our first one. (The second didn't take as long.) An epidural will slow down the process, too. You'd probably beat the doctor to the hospital. They're notorious for waltzing in at the last second, catching the baby as he pops out, and sending you a bill.

 

An Eastie. The games are in decent-sized cities, probably with multiple hospitals. Maybe she could go along and stay in the hotel if she's not feeling well, and you could be on constant alert, with a plan for quick response and transport in each venue city. Pay for the hotels closest to the stadiums, etc. With a lot of planning you probably can meet both obligations.

 

I just thought how funny this must look to an "outsider" reading this thread for the first time, wondering how anybody could even think this is a pickle. For those crazy fans like ourselves, it's just too hard for somebody else to understand.

I'm just wondering how you'll fit "Fifa" into your new babies name.......Isabel Fifa......., Michael Fifa.........good luck on that one!

I'm sure this will all work itself out, with your new baby taking priority, of course....your precious child will be born, you'll make it to your game & you'll be laughing in a few months, wondering how you could've even considered this would be a problem!

 

1. Which week will your wife be in at game time?

2. According to my wife who is pregnant and works in public health, first time mothers tend to skew toward 40 weeks, with the delivery process lasting less than 8 hours (sorry, no SD) from the time of the water breaking.

3. If I were you, unless you're wife's in week 34 or so, I'd stay home.

Sachin

 

I can't even believe that this is even a question! Sure, you might miss some soccer games and your wife won't even give birth, but after all they are just games. How bad would you feel if you went to the games and missed the official birthday? FOR A SPORTING EVENT!!!! COME ON!!!

I guess people have different priorities in life, I don't know. I have a daughter, and you can have all the World Cups when it comes to missing her popping into the world. Next time, plan better. My friend got his wife pregnant, and she just delivered. And it was planned. Good for him.

By the way, we will be having beers together in Germany this year watching the US beat up on the Czechs and upsetting the Italians.

Good luck....

 

I don't think anyone here is making the case that a soccer match is more important than your child's birth. That would be absurd. This thread is about logistics. That's all. It might not be possible to attend the match given the timing, but it's a situation worth discussing.

Look, many of us know from experience that if (1) the birth comes early enough, (2) both are healthy, and (3) the mother and baby are settled and comfortable at home, then Taylor should have no trouble taking a day to attend the Italy match. I took a week or so off from work after my kids were born to help around the house, but there was a day or two there that I could have run out the door without any problems. It depends a lot on the wife.

 

Did they try weed? It has excellent anti-nausea properties I've read.