The "Anything other than talking about bathrooms" Random Thoughts Thread [R]

when it comes to anything.....

except driving - where it's third...

 

Why can't coping be done by simply continuing to be angry at it????

 

because being angry isn't coping, plus it's a secondary response. the primary response has to do with the feeling of loss that unpleasant change brings.

i thought you were smarter than to make such a suggestion.

 

holy smokes this new UI for the website is KOOKY

 

I use the green arrow to jump to the top of the page and then select Liverpool again. not as good as before, by far, but manageable.

 

So, you're telling me that John Lydon and Joe Strummer weren't absolutely angry? That Dennis Potter wasn't during the height of his creativity and Thatcherism??

Absolute definitions matter - and I'm only smart enough to beware of catch-all woolly-headed assertions - the like of which you are proponing here ..... Now, while I agree with why a particular school of thought might seek to state such things, believing them to be for the greater good if generally accepted (and likely being right in this) I don't see a need for everyone to agree when a concept isn't fully philosophically sustainable, as this type of one patently isn't..... It's main utility is in the pedagogic sense of teaching kids that it usually is best to be able to control one's urges to anger, or curtail rather than nurture them when they happen. However, in all cases, this is certainly not proven to be best. As in everything there are uncomfortable variations which also work best for other types of people. As in my group below.

My point is is that being angry is flippin' exactly the mechanism of coping for some people in the nature of disagreement with things (I didn't say I'd recommend it as a method - although I personally cope with the existence of Twitter by being angry at its existence whenever it pops into my mind, and refusing to have anything else to do with it, and this makes me feel paradoxically good!!). It requires a degree of self control to not become a slave to one's anger, but a good ongoing seething murderous anger at Dick Cheney I find to be a morally resolute and ultimately rewarding and necessary endeavour, and I believe that such a one as Socrates would probably agree with my feeling/insight into this, whilst also most probably arguing that those whom that kind of bottled ever-ready anger might harm to carry around with them, should probably then drop it. And finally, it's hard to see how being angry isn't/wasn't coping for say Glenn Beck, Adolf Hitler, Donald Trump, the fictional Archie Bunker, Martin Luther, Anne Coulter, Ayn Rand, Ian Paisley (the early years), John Lydon, Attila the Hun, Vlad the Impaler, Bomber Harris, Spike Lee, Enoch Powell... and the list goes on for yards, folks and folkies.......

 

BEING angry isn't coping. Being angry is an emotional state that generally is an offshoot of some kind of other emotion, a sense of injustice, grief or other kinds of emotional pain. How one copes with anger is a very individual process. The most common and least healthful method is acting out, thru outbursts, violence, passive-aggressive behavior and other forms of acting out, but I don't think those are coping mechanisms.

Healthy coping is taking constructive action, in some cases simply venting, proactive expression of the feeling that sparks the anger, the hurt, indignation, sense of betrayal, plus other sorts of the phenomena that foster outright anger.

To take Glenn Beck as an example, his "anger" is mostly, as I see it, indignation, the sense that there are certain kinds of injustices, wrong-doings, corruption and their ilk that are left unattended by those whose responsibility would be to take effective action. In some cases, Beck merely points out the wrong, expecting that people who are concerned about such things will be mobilized. Like most whistle-blowers, he sees himself as a change-agent of a sort. His ego strength is such that he can perform that role without being worried that he will suffer for it.

If you think Attila the Hun was "coping" with anger, I hardly know what to say.

If you think that I was trying to say that one should "bottle up" anger, let me assure you that I am of the contrary view, but that doesn't mean acting out. I am reminded of a sketch that Monty Python's Flying Circus did about the Piranha Brothers, Dinsdale and Doug. I can't remember which one, but one of the brothers tended to express his anger in anti-social ways, and the narrator said, "That's better than bottling it up", which, of course, is a satirical commentary.

 

People Are Deeply Disturbed By This Hideous Statue Of Cristiano Ronaldo
“The Cristiano Ronaldo airport bust has made my whole week “

By Ron Dicker
By most accounts, Portuguese soccer great Cristiano Ronaldo is handsome.

But you might not know that judging by the bust of him that was unveiled at the renaming of the Madeira airport in his honor Wednesday.

Visitors at Aeroporto Cristiano Ronaldo are now greeted by a sculpture of his “face” in front of the terminal. And well, Twitter had a field day.

 

I don't see what all the fuss is about. Picasso would definitely approve, and he was born in Malaga, so he would probably NOT have been a Real supporter.

For example

 

Beat you by 4 hrs on the OTT thread!

 

Nice photo portrait.

 

What, his museum wasn't enough?

 

Just received this from my daughter on spring break in the Maldives



Then this one on my grandson taking his morning run. Pure Porno...!

 

Spring break in the Maldives? ROUGH!!

 

They get super deals out of Shanghai for teachers.

 

Anthony Joshua vs Wladimir Klitschko tickets for sale (unofficially ) for over 200k..crikey

 

HWT boxing is pathetic anymore. Just the fact that either Klitschko can even fight for the title is ridiculous to me, as I have long watched the sport and the parade of great heavies.

 

It's just a payday for Klitschko tbh.....AJ on the hand is on the way up

 

Welcome to the Wild Wild West Newterp...you gonna make it to the coast?

 

NorCal is where it's at - we've got the coast, the redwoods, the vineyards, the mountains and streams, the water,...and the Earthquakes!

 

I love SF, Monterrey, Carmel, and the entire coast.