OK so I pretty much reff'ed all Summer long but there was about a 5 week break between ODP and my first "fall" season game. Well let me say it's been a rough start. As I posted in another thread, I refereed a tournament last weekened and had to have a parent removed from the sidelines for the first time in my ref career. Well this past weekend I was refereeing another selects tournament. Being new to the tournament and not knowing the assignor, I ended up working the U12 field all weekend. I was center on a U12 girls match. In the second half, red leads white by a score of 3-0 with about 15 minutes remaining. White is driving to the red PA when on a pass my AR flags offside, good call and one I agreed with. White coach starts going ballistic on my AR. While the girls are setting up for the free kick, the AR tries to calm the coach and explain the call with no luck. Finally we're ready to restart on the field, but the AR is still engaged with the coach so I yell across the field "Coach please sit down". He snaps around to me and tells me he doesn't have to sit down. So I start walking to the sidelines and tell him 3 more times to sit (with increasing forcefullness) to which he remains defiant. I'm trying hard to keep this from getting ugly but he won't comply so I send him off. He won't leave!! I try for quite a while to get him to leave the field but no dice. Warned him at least 4 times if he doesn't go the match will be ended. Finally he says to me, "Well then end it". So that was it, match abandoned. UGH That's the first time I've ever had to abandon a match and of course its with the tournament assignor there watching. In some post match discussion with the coach (who had finally cooled off), I found that his issue was he felt I insulted him in front of the parents and players by asking him to sit down. I felt I was very polite about it but he took it very personally. I don't know if this is a cultural thing (he was of Mexican descent) as I've used this tactic before without issue. All in all I guess what I learned is I need to handle that situation a little differently at the outset. Perhaps just telling him "Enough" or something to that effect rather than asking him to sit. Another lesson learned but damn what a rough way to begin this season.