it turns out it's one of the "world's most untranslatable words": Ilunga Tshiluba (Southwest Congo) – A word famous for its untranslatability, most professional translators pinpoint it as the stature of a person “who is ready to forgive and forget any first abuse, tolerate it the second time, but never forgive nor tolerate on the third offense.” (Altalang.com) so that explains why ilunga can get beat so much. he lets the first two slide!