Unfortunately in the US, we are not able to have ads such as these that raise the awareness of domestic violence. Instead, we have a group that is responsible for 99.8% of all complaints filed with the FCC. I'd love for these ads to air to see what would happen. NSFW and make sure your sound is on so you can hear the public service announcement. http://www.homefrontcalgary.com/announcements/index.htm
They do a good job of undercutting the perception that domestic violence is a product of the abuser losing control. The fact is that these kinds of incidents almost never happen in public, because the guy knows exactly what will happen if it does.
The thing is that I've seen better PSA's that get the message across. No offence to those who put their efforts into these PSA's.
Well, I do some work in the courts system and domestic violence courts are one of the things that I deal with. A lot of abusers actually do have control problems. Anti social too, but more than half can actually be brought to control their abuse with couseling and court monitoring. There is a significant number that are simply pathological. They probably belong in an institution somewhere.
Those CFL TV ads were violent, too. Anyone remember them from a couple of years ago? Actually, there are similar ads on local (USA) radio. It has a guy in a boardroom talking about something and adds that he also beats his kids. The ad goes on to say that abuse is not always that clear and that people should report even possible abuse. That is strong. I have seen people acused of abuse and never really get a way to clear their name. I also think the ads may cause the victims to be even more scared.
Yeah, that's a big problem. Some people have problems that courts even try to rehabilitate people they consider to be almost subhuman... but even if they were, what if she wants to go back to him? Plus you gotta actually make her press charges in the first place, which ain't easy. I think it all starts with public discourse, beyond simple general condemnation.
Understood, but I was referring to the fact that the vast majority of abusers do their abusing in places where it won't be detected, rather than in restaurants or boardrooms. Thus, while abuse might be keyed by anger, the anger itself and especially this particular expression of it are constrained by certain contexts. In other words, they choose to lose their control in situations where it's safe for them to do so. Speaking of control, in most cases the abuse is about maintaining a control over the woman. That's why the worst violence, including murder of course, tends to occur when the woman is trying to leave the relationship.
True enough. I said "he" because the number of men who get abused (especially by women) is so small as to be statistically insignificant. And I'm never going to forgive you for exposing me to that picture this early in the morning.
I don't know -they were bit over the top,and the violence comes from a context outside of the relationship. I thought the boardroom commercial was a tape of a Gray Davis campaign meeting. On the rehabbing abusers aspect,I interviewed a shelter director for a course I'm taking.Her personal opinion is that abuser rehab is BS because most of them are so good at justifying and rationalizing.