Has no one hear anything this year? The best story become new thread every year. I make this one. For me, I hear one player tell me to have humanity. This happen in futsal match. Why? He become like fish in net when ball ready for kick-in. Ball roll to opponent player who score. The fish-player ask me like that. What I do if he not take proper kick? I know where net is. Why mistake of opponent? Answer is no. So now I must have humanity. Net in futsal court very common here, many player know how to play. okay, your turn.
Heard this one from a colleague while at the ODP Region IV Championships this weekend. Night game. Team is in dark blue and keeper is wearing dark purple. Referees during check-in ask if the keeper has an alternate color. Asst. coach goes off on the referees, asking if they're stupid and can't tell the difference. 4th responds, "We only need one coach to continue this match, coach." Didn't say a word the rest of the game.
I, for one, have a serious issue with color blindness. There is no way I would let blue and purple on the field together. It is especially bad after the players start sweating.
The Varsity coach apologized for not having the ref room for us yesterday. He said that the JV jerseys arrived "Today at 1." They had lost all of their equipment in Harvey. The first set of jerseys arrived, "With 6 inch numbers on the front [pause] nothing on the back. I placed this order back in September, got them the [purchase order] in October and they are telling me that they can't find the inventory for me in December." They had lost everything to Harvey and had to spend ~$24k to replace it all. I think he was just happy to be playing and using the locker rooms again.
Ouch. That might result in a little touch line chat with me, especially if I'm in anything other than an exceptionally forgiving mood. And depending on context, it might get considerably more than that.
During a showcase game, one girl was dribbling down the field at a quick pace and was challenged by a defender. The defender stopped the ball and the attacker flipped over the ball and landed on her head and lay there holding her knock. A guy (who I later found out was her dad) first made a few comments to me while I was on the line about if I thought she tripped over a rock and why I had turned away from the play to watch for offside. Someone who seemed to care more about the injury had already come on the field to help stabilize her kneck just in case of a serious injury. The Dad then walked down the sideline toward his daughter and told them to just stand her up and that she was fine. He then told his daughter she was fine and to just get up. Needless to say, no one listened to him but it was amazing to see someone seem to not care at all that their daughter may have a serious injury.
Several years ago in a modified (junior high) match here in New York, I had one team with blue and one team with purple. Neither team had pinnies. I started the game but kept messing up out-of-bounds calls because the colors were so similar. Eventually, the blue coach says, "Do you want us to turn our jerseys inside out?" They had reservable jerseys that were blue but were white if turned inside out. I said, "Coach, that's why I asked if you had pinnies at the beginning of the game!"
GU16 player: "Can you make her stop talking?" (no) and BU18 player: "Oh yeah? Well at least I smell good!"
The internet has not perfected smell-o-vision yet... His team was losing by quite a margin, and both teams smelled terrible.
Some time I call more fair than other times, but no, I not say loud, I just give the U15 coach a look. These two not easy understanding for me. Some culture-joke it must be. English, or American?
Perhaps this is my inexperience talking, but if there is more than one coach, I'm dismissing this dipstick right away. Calling me stupid before we even get going? nope, nope, nope.
At region IV odp I was AR1 and a player got hit right in no mans land. To which a dad from the same team goes “ohh right in the peppers” and couldn’t contain myself from laughing.
100%. I have certain 'trigger' words that will most certainly get coaches/players either carded/talked to/sent off. If a coach called me stupid, idiot, dumb, moronic, etc. Buh-bye!
At events such as the OP describes, it is expected that the referees demonstrate they can put up an event. Are they ready to work hard? Are they ready for high performance? Working with others with who they do not see eye-to-eye (intentional pun), is a sign of leadership, and character, just to name two. In my book, this is just right up that alley, where the referee crew sets the stage for what story unfolds. The fourth official's quip did exactly what transpired - not a peep for the whole show. What more could one ask for? For the rest of the match, no effort was spent on handling that 'squeaky-wheel' asst, was it? Of the myriads of responses without throwing/dismissing the asst out, the referee response could be not much improved by -- Not only that, we are hard of hearing. So we ignore what this chap just said (this to the coach, not the asst). Should we throw the book at them? (asking own crew) Let's throw the book at them. Well, well, we get to do referee work even before the kick-off. Thanks Fellas! Get the goalkeeper kit changed before the start. We kick-off in [#] minutes. The winner of this match goes to nationals. Is this how you want to represent your team? Is this how you want to start (addressing directly to the coach, not the asst?) Some of the responses will be dictatorial, some facilitating, managerial, manipulative, however, asserting without compromising on applicable laws, and adjusting to conflict situation is integral, just like any other workplace. That is how change is affected, and high performance achieved. Never take the easier option, as everyone else will. For me, the idea to convey is that this is nothing new to us, we have come across such 'nuisances' before, we know how to handle these situations. Opportunities come well in advance of experience, knowledge, relational, or emotional maturity. Prepared or not, these are the sort of decisions that determines failure or success. This is not surprising, it is very predictable.
Yes and no. I think you are on the right track. But not all one size fits all. I think the referee is perfectly within his/her rights to dismiss. But like you said your instruction is for the next level. You need to start building a rapport with teams and clubs. Is using your nuclear option the best choice? Sometimes. But not always, especially, when a precision knife would work.
Honestly, it's really all about the tone. If someone is trying to be funny about it, then sure, we can back and forth over it and set a good standard. (Not everyone is good at being funny, I have to remember that) But, if guy is being a real turd with his tone, like "Seriously, you're THAT stupid?" Then I'm probably going to send him to the lot. Keeping in mind that I primarily do youth league stuff and tourney stuff and see these people a lot over and over again. If I were doing higher level games I'd probably have more leeway built into my decision. At the end of the day I've thought about it and I'd probably respond with "Not stupid enough to say something like that." or "Now, we can speak to each other like gentlemen, or we can be nasty to each other, and you know how that usually ends up, so let's be nice today, ok?"