Rape/Sexual Assault Culture

So, I'm out for my daily constitutional a few days ago and stopped to have a chat with a fella I've seen and spoken to on several occasions when he's out walking his dog.

Anyway, on my usual route, (around a medium-sized lake which is about a mile in circumference), I mentioned to him that there'd been a woman raped there whilst she was out jogging. It occurred, several weeks ago, (so, during the winter), at around 3 O'clock in the afternoon, according to the local newspaper.

I was expecting him to say, 'Oh, that's terrible', or some such comment... instead he says, 'Well, some of these girls are asking for it'.

TBH I can't quite remember WHAT I said but I think it was something along the lines of 'Well... I don't know about THAT!'. I do remember pointing out that she was running at 3 O'clock in the afternoon, on a weekend, IN WINTER, so was obviously probably covered up, (not that THAT should make any difference but, there we are), and some other things I'd have thought were obvious.

Anyway, I'm just mentioning it to say that, when you meet people casually, you never really KNOW what they're like, do you. They might look normal and seem it in a brief chat but they might be total lunatics on the quiet.

 

I thought he was gonna say "It was me, mate. Here - take my phone. Call the police"

 

I've taken to avoiding him now, if I can, as I'm not too sure what else I can say.

Well, other than what I've ALREADY said... y'know!

 

Well they are female.
That's all that is necessary.

 

Frau ist Frau.

 

If their men can't keep them in line, another man must.
Uncontrolled women are the death knell of any rational civilization.

-Plato,maybe

 

So Ryan Secrest is not being treated in the same way as the Weistein.

One is still successful and popular, the other stopped being successful.


So in Hollywood (the world really) #metoo only applies to failed males.

 

I suppose it depends on whether people feel the allegations are true.

I saw the BBC documentary about Weinstein and, according to that, it was clear for a LONG time that he was a serial sexual predator with multiple people accusing him over many years.

He was also getting dirt on people to defend himself against allegations AND getting multiple people to sign non-disclosure agreements paying out millions of dollars.

 

I am scalded by your HOT TAKE!!!!

Or, different things or different.

 

Heard on LeBatard this morning that Dustin Hoffman is being questioned about priors.

 

The NY Times wrote about that in December, there were allegations from five women.

https://www.nytimes.com/2017/12/15/us/dustin-hoffman-sexual-misconduct.html

 

One way underreported part of the #metoo story is...WTF have HR departments been doing with all these accusations? In many cases, not much.

After a female employee at Vice revealed to the firm’s human resources department that she had been groped at the media company’s holiday party, the HR director reportedly told her to “laugh it off,” andgave similar advice to other staffers who disclosed they had been sexually harassed.

At the Weinstein Company, HR allegedly funneled every sexual harassment complaint about co-founder Harvey Weinstein back to Weinstein himself.

Uber’s HR department, after a female employee complained in the immediate aftermath of her new supervisor’s inappropriate behavior toward her, told the worker they “wouldn’t feel comfortable giving him anything other than a warning.”

While both Vice and Uber have since publicly apologized and said they have taken steps to change their corporate culture, and the Weinstein Company declined to comment on the HR allegations leveled against it, these incidents — along with many similar ones — point to a troubling pattern.

They shine a light not only on the prevalence of workplace sexual harassment, but also on the failure of human resources departments to properly handle these cases. Experts say the recent flood of cases that have rocked the nation make it clear that, in at least some areas of its mission, HR is failing the employees it ostensibly is there to serve.

https://www.benefitnews.com/news/hr-failed-on-sexual-harassment-in-the-workplace-now-what

 

It's not quite that nefarious.Simply put,HR exists to make employee difficulties disappear while ensuring the company holds no liability.
There is a big focus on education and training ;less so on punitive action for bad actors,especially if there is no paper trail.

 

Workers fall for the spiel that HR is some sort of advocate for them but what they are is the enforcement arm of upper management.

 

HR are only there to support upper management, period. If an employee has a complaint about a supervisor (not necessarily sexual harassment) it get swept under the rug or the underling gets whacked.

 

... or 'capitalism' as it's sometimes know.

 

Hopefully you meant 'sacked'?

But maybe not!

 

Your casual chats with strangers are seriously about recent rape victims in the area? He probably thought you were the actual rapist and just wanted to sympathize until you continued in your run.

 

Very nuanced article. Molly comes across as quite brilliant.

 

Maybe he was the rapist. Turn him into the cops. Tell them he confessed. he deserves the hassle.