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Martin Daoust
22 Jul 2008, 08:47 AM
Let me first make this clear - I will be here no matter how disgustingly some people behave. No matter what you think of me or my views , Arsenal is my football club and I will not turn my back on my club because some people think there is only one definifiton of what a Gooner is or should think and say, and will say and do anything to force people to conform to their ideals of what a Gooner by trying to bully and intimdate and slander those who do not.

Well that won't work. This is my football club as much as it is yours and nothing will change that - not even some people's cowardly behavior. The same goes for any Gooners who do not conform to your vision of a proper Gooner. I have tried to be the grown up here and not take the bait, not sink to your level, not take part in a flaming war, and not behave toward you as you have toward me. I even tried to reason with you about moderating your behavior.

In truth I guess some people should follow their own advice - the advice they lacked the courage to post directly for all to see. People like Anti are gutless cowards. Say anything to try to win an argument any way they can but if they ever had to back it up I doubt we'd ever hear them say a single word. People like Anti haven't got the guts to tell people to eat shit and die to their faces or where they might face any other consequences. I would if that's how I chose to be tell you that right here and now damn the consequences. But I won't because I do not want people treating me that way so I have no right to, even if you deserve that and then some.

People like Anti have no thought for the consequences of anything they say or do because they will never have to look anyone they treat in this way in the eye – least of all someone they make these allegations about and it turns out to be true not about them but someone they love, or even where it is true somehow about the person he is referring to ( I say somehow because without sinking to his level I have a feeling Anti isn’t an expert about ANYBODY’S mental health , including perhaps, his own. I’m not enough of an expert to say for sure, but I do have that hunch) and it could have serious consequences – even consequences Anti actually wouldn’t intend., quite possibly

But that wouldn’t stop Anti – winning his argument by any means necessary is his sole purpose behind this behavior.. I have no brief with his desire to win arguments – lord knows how could I ? It’s the tactics he will shamelessly stoop to in order to do so that are so gutless and cowardly. Say anything to discredit the person making the argument, especially if you cannot discredit the argument.

We can all do that in the heat of the argument, but what Anti and other like him do is go that extra step, to attack a person personally using baseless claims and accusations of a far more offensive nature than is appropriate - especially without actual knowledge of the person in question usually and almost certainly without actual knowledge of the claim they are making about the person in every instance.

Everybody knows the debate that has set all of Anti’s conduct in motion in this instance . I won’t dredge that here except to say Anti and others have and will conduct these dirty cowardly personal attacks on the character of people they don’t know to try and convince themselves and others their views are right,whether they are or not, and to bully and intimidate those who disagree with them into silence – again all to try and assure themselves they are right And if they turn out wrong about what they say they don't even have the guts to admit it or apologize for it - like men do...

Antifan – frankly AntiMAN is more like it from your behavior - I feel sorry if you have children counting on you to be their example of how to treat other people properly. For them, and, believe or not., for you. And if he has grown children I feel worse because its too late for you to even try to teach them any better. I tried to deal with you as an adult and ignore you since mature civil communication had become impossible, but it’s time someone actually stood up and told you what you are - not made some false claim they don’t have to prove. You are an obscene coward and bully. Your own posts prove that. Why you are…well I’m not a doctor and wouldn’t pretend to be nor am I some amateur therapist like you, so I don’t know. And I don’t care. Just grow up already. I wish it hadn't come to this but you pushed and pushed and pushed. You wanted this and now you've got it.

Its true - you can't discuss religion or politics - or football with some people...Shame really - we might actually have gotten on quite well otherwise. Not that we'll ever know now.

EDIT: Feel free to lock the thread at any time. Anti and others have had rtheir chance to actually discuss things and chose not to. I'm not interested in anything any of them has to say to try and justify or excuse their childish conduct that breaks for froum rules really.

Rewinder
22 Jul 2008, 08:51 AM
Give it a rest already. Send anti a pm if you want to talk about this.

jinog
22 Jul 2008, 09:02 AM
Let me first make this clear - I will be here no matter how disgustingly some people behave. No matter what you think of me or my views , Arsenal is my football club and I will not turn my back on my club because some people think there is only one definifiton of what a Gooner is or should think and say, and will say and do anything to force people to conform to their ideals of what a Gooner by trying to bully and intimdate and slander those who do not.

Well that won't work. This is my football club as much as it is yours and nothing will change that - not even some people's cowardly behavior. The same goes for any Gooners who do not conform to your vision of a proper Gooner. I have tried to be the grown up here and not take the bait, not sink to your level, not take part in a flaming war, and not behave toward you as you have toward me. I even tried to reason with you about moderating your behavior.

In truth I guess some people should follow their own advice - the advice they lacked the courage to post directly for all to see. People like Anti are gutless cowards. Say anything to try to win an argument any way they can but if they ever had to back it up I doubt we'd ever hear them say a single word. People like Anti haven't got the guts to tell people to eat shit and die to their faces or where they might face any other consequences. I would if that's how I chose to be tell you that right here and now damn the consequences. But I won't because I do not want people treating me that way so I have no right to, even if you deserve that and then some.

People like Anti have no thought for the consequences of anything they say or do because they will never have to look anyone they treat in this way in the eye – least of all someone they make these allegations about and it turns out to be true not about them but someone they love, or even where it is true somehow about the person he is referring to ( I say somehow because without sinking to his level I have a feeling Anti isn’t an expert about ANYBODY’S mental health , including perhaps, his own. I’m not enough of an expert to say for sure, but I do have that hunch) and it could have serious consequences – even consequences Anti actually wouldn’t intend., quite possibly

But that wouldn’t stop Anti – winning his argument by any means necessary is his sole purpose behind this behavior.. I have no brief with his desire to win arguments – lord knows how could I ? It’s the tactics he will shamelessly stoop to in order to do so that are so gutless and cowardly. Say anything to discredit the person making the argument, especially if you cannot discredit the argument.

We can all do that in the heat of the argument, but what Anti and other like him do is go that extra step, to attack a person personally using baseless claims and accusations of a far more offensive nature than is appropriate - especially without actual knowledge of the person in question usually and almost certainly without actual knowledge of the claim they are making about the person in every instance.

Everybody knows the debate that has set all of Anti’s conduct in motion in this instance . I won’t dredge that here except to say Anti and others have and will conduct these dirty cowardly personal attacks on the character of people they don’t know to try and convince themselves and others their views are right,whether they are or not, and to bully and intimidate those who disagree with them into silence – again all to try and assure themselves they are right And if they turn out wrong about what they say they don't even have the guts to admit it or apologize for it - like men do...

Antifan – frankly AntiMAN is more like it from your behavior - I feel sorry if you have children counting on you to be their example of how to treat other people properly. For them, and, believe or not., for you. And if he has grown children I feel worse because its too late for you to even try to teach them any better. I tried to deal with you as an adult and ignore you since mature civil communication had become impossible, but it’s time someone actually stood up and told you what you are - not made some false claim they don’t have to prove. You are an obscene coward and bully. Your own posts prove that. Why you are…well I’m not a doctor and wouldn’t pretend to be nor am I some amateur therapist like you, so I don’t know. And I don’t care. Just grow up already. I wish it hadn't come to this but you pushed and pushed and pushed. You wanted this and now you've got it.

Its true - you can't discuss religion or politics - or football with some people...Shame really - we might actually have gotten on quite well otherwise. Not that we'll ever know now.

EDIT: Feel free to lock the thread at any time. Anti and others have had rtheir chance to actually discuss things and chose not to. I'm not interested in anything any of them has to say to try and justify or excuse their childish conduct that breaks for froum rules really.

I understand what you're saying and genuinely agree.


People on here need to grow up.


Now eat sh1t and follow Spuds you Turk burger.

generals soccer
22 Jul 2008, 09:17 AM
I really think we needed another thread for this stuff :rolleyes:

mrnelson
22 Jul 2008, 09:25 AM
... someone's got a crush on Anti?

Martin Daoust
22 Jul 2008, 09:35 AM
I really think we needed another thread for this stuff :rolleyes:

What stuff - this about how people behave on the forum - what else is it about. What else is discussed here? What other issue is discussed here? Do tell, please...

Martin Daoust
22 Jul 2008, 09:37 AM
I understand what you're saying and genuinely agree.


People on here need to grow up.


Now eat sh1t and follow Spuds you Turk burger.

Again follow your own advice - if you were being facetious now is not the time to deadpan as well

RealMadGunner
22 Jul 2008, 09:49 AM
Again follow your own advice - if you were being facetious now is not the time to deadpan as well

Hey MD, no offense .. We kinda never crossed swords [i ain't that good at that anyway], but i think this thread would be better off in the NSR thread, as it would contain absolutely no information on football .. If i remember rit, i think i have one there for myself too !! :cool: .. And honestly, i don't really like to involve stuff that i understand very little about, like the board and finances, apart from the basic stuff of course .. And i have a feeling we've kinda overdone those topics for the time being ..

Martin Daoust
22 Jul 2008, 09:52 AM
Give it a rest already. Send anti a pm if you want to talk about this.

No I went down that road already and it didn't work, plus Anti isn't the only one behaving this way, just the worst of them.

This about being able to disagree, even strongly, like grown adults. No one should be treating anyone this way for such petty reasons as to win arguments or not lose them even, or to silence them altogether.

We don't have to be animals because we disagree, we don't have to spread lies about one another because we disagree, we don't have to hurl obscenities or threats at each other because we disagree. And say what you will about me or my views, I defended them and defended them hard, but I have always tried my best not to get personal to attack the person I am debating as opposed to their views. I'm sure I'm not perfect in that regard, but I'm equally sure I am close as possible because that all is all any of us can do. I am equally sure that Anti and other are about as far as possible from that standard if its even a standard to shhot for. Indeed long after this started I saw a message warning me of Anti's conduct. Obviously I'm not the only one who feels this way about Anti or this kind of conduct.

If you want to disagree civilly fine. If not just ignore me - you can do that of you choose, or even if you don't just don't read what I am saying. I ignored Anti as long as I could, but after being told in could not post valid opinions about issues affecting our transfer budget in the transfer thread, to have Anti come into the discussion thread where those aspects of all club issues could be discussed just to try slander my personal character and well-being was enough. No one here should tolerate anybody treating anybody else this way for any reason.

kanonier
22 Jul 2008, 09:53 AM
oh my goodness. it's an INTERNET MESSAGE BOARD. get over yourself.

dynamo_gunner
22 Jul 2008, 09:58 AM
I'm gonna run out of rep with all the replies to this.
Just because it's attention, doesn't mean its good attention, love
now wheres Anti? He got this guy so wound up he did an open letter?
Use your words Martin, use your words........

maskito
22 Jul 2008, 09:59 AM
Martin - you do realize that your comments and personal attacks about Anti in your own post make you just as guilty - if not moreso - than him? (Antiman???? Are you saying he's a Feminist?;))

The sheer length of your post (once again) doesn't help your case either.

I'm NOT saying this to dig into you, but you have to admit that your responses on this thread are actually validating many of Anti's comments. You do realize that as well, don't you?

Martin Daoust
22 Jul 2008, 09:59 AM
Hey MD, no offense .. We kinda never crossed swords [i ain't that good at that anyway], but i think this thread would be better off in the NSR thread, as it would contain absolutely no information on football .. If i remember rit, i think i have one there for myself too !! :cool: .. And honestly, i don't really like to involve stuff that i understand very little about, like the board and finances, apart from the basic stuff of course .. And i have a feeling we've kinda overdone those topics for the time being ..

No offense taken. As to the actual issue at the heart of this specific personal conflict - I don't think it has resolved itself as yet. As to is this the proper part of the forum-well this behavior is driven largely by discussions about football or the business of football, so it should be addressed here. I keep looking for forum rules and haven't found them. If I had I would posted whatever the rules are on abusive posts and left it at that more or less.

I think that because this is about behavior in the forum at-large and people need to think about their behavior or the behavior of others and whether it really is appropriate or necessary, so I have to disagree a bit really, but again, no worries. Disagreement isn't worth the effort some people put in. Cheers! :D

kanonier
22 Jul 2008, 10:02 AM
I think that because this is about behavior in the forum at-large and people need to think about their behavior or the behavior of others and whether it really is appropriate or necessary, so I have to disagree a bit really, but again, no worries. Disagreement isn't worth the effort some people put in. Cheers! :D

Once again, I'll remind you that you're posting on an internet message board... this isn't a tea party where you're going to convince people to be worried about their manners. Some of that is going to come with the territory and you just need to accept it and move on.

Martin Daoust
22 Jul 2008, 10:12 AM
Martin - you do realize that your comments and personal attacks about Anti in your own post make you just as guilty - if not moreso - than him? (Antiman???? Are you saying he's a Feminist?;))

The sheer length of your post (once again) doesn't help your case either.

I'm NOT saying this to dig into you, but you have to admit that your responses on this thread are actually validating many of Anti's comments. You do realize that as well, don't you?

You can look at it that way if you choose to, I suppose. I believe silence can validate his behavior every bit as much as response. I tried silence and it didn't stop him. The forum rules - whatever they are - seem unable to stop him. I do agree I have let myself down by letting myself get as angry as I have. But I equally let myself down if I don't stand up for myself - and every other poster - including truly Anti and others like him when they are treated this way by other posters. I don't thnk anybody should resort to unfairly attacking someone personally like this on a forum. My views are absolutely fair game to all just as anyone else's. I am not - nor are you or anyone else - again including Anti. But this needed to be addressed. I should have let the mods do so when I was asked if I wanted that but again I chose to try and be above that. When his behavior didn't change I opted to ignore him hoping that would just let him ignore me, but that hasn't worked either. I guess this is my last best option short of flying out to California to resolve this face-to-face in a way I wiouldn't want to any more than he should.

As to the term think of antiman - think of the biblical use of anti - the opposite of in nature...

blurtz23
22 Jul 2008, 10:16 AM
http://pics.schwippy.com/forums/images/make_it_stop.jpg

Cannon
22 Jul 2008, 10:22 AM
Thread closed.

Take your dispute to PMs or even better just leave each other alone and ignore posts from the other. Time for both sides to back off.

Martin in the future you should report posts that you think violate the BigSoccer rules and guidelines. No more threads directed at another person or to address possible rule violations. Creating threads that go on to break the same rules you are upset about Anti breaking makes no sense.

Neither party will be getting cards at this point but do us all a favor and leave it alone. Further nonsense and I'll be forced to to start handing out cards, deleting posts, etc. :(:mad: