I didn't know where to post this, need advice

[SiempreMarel]

Maybe someone can give me some kind of help. I am 31 yrs. old now and when I was 18 yrs. old I dated my first true love(you know puppy luv), well anyways that didn't work out too well and we ended it after a few months. Okay now how many years later and he happens to re-appear in my life after I saw him in a restaurant. I was honest with my b/f and pointed out who my ex b/f was, i didn't want to keep anything from him. That was a month ago, and i just found out that my ex and my b/f ran into each other at a job site ( they do construction). My ex asked him if he was my b/f and my b/f told him no, because he wanted to see what he had to say. Well anyways my ex went on to say how much he used to loved me and that he was still seeing me even though i had a b/f and he was married. He had the nerve to say that he was "with me" a week ago!! Why the hell would my ex do this? motives? My b/f is mad and is calling me every other name in the book, he doesn't believe me and thinks I have been cheating on him. I have nothing to do with my ex and have no feelings for him, I feel so distraught and sad. I think if my boyfriend loved me that he would believe me and trust me. I know I can easily contact my ex b/f to straighten things out, but I don't think I want to open a can of worms. Any advice? Did I do something wrong?:confused:

[Ringo]

I think if my boyfriend loved me that he would believe me and trust me.

I think that's your answer right there.

[Lizzie Bee]

Ringo makes a good point... But you gotta be honest and say that you'd probably be upset, too, in his shoes... Talk him into watching "Much Ado About Nothing" with you to make your point about being unfairly accused. J/K that wouldn't help but I'm really tired and loopy today (...yea kids...)

Best of luck to you. Sounds like there's a lot of psychological trauma that could be going on. Wish I could give some really good advice but kids kept me up all night so I'm exhausted but I just wanted to reply to wish you the best of luck.

[billreeves]

I just want to add that your "ex" is a lying sack of crap, and you should not have any further contact with him.

[Lizzie Bee]

I never knew you were so eloquent, bill! Much better than my sleep-deprived ramblings. :D

[IASocFan]

Ringo and Bill have it pretty well nailed. I'd just print out this thread, hand it to him, and ask if he'd like to respond.

Good luck.

[christopher d]

Better yet, mail it to him. Mail it to both of them.

[nsa]

Better yet, mail it to him. Mail it to both of them.

I read that as "nail" it to him.

Seems appropriate. ;)

[Juan Carlos II]

perfect excuse for a threesome. Enjoy!

[malby]

So both of the men lied. What a suprise. Thats what we do. Your ex motives were simple, trying too impress a complete stranger. Thats what men do.

[Father Ted]

Your bf is a dumbass. Why would he lie to your ex in the first place? That is being quite deceitful. This is nothing to do with your ex, really. If your BF doesnt trust you, just tell him to f-off.

[Matt in the Hat]

Move

[SiempreMarel]

Wow, thanks for the responses:D and the ones I could do without (in regards to the thressome:rolleyes: ).
The storm has calmed:o , and everyone I know did tell me the same thing, "put yourself in his shoes". I guess he needed some time to process all the $hit that waz being talked.
But this did make me question my relationship and have a good talk with him about our future.

Thanks to all.

[SiempreMarel]

So both of the men lied. What a suprise. Thats what we do. Your ex motives were simple, trying too impress a complete stranger. Thats what men do.

And this is the reason that I have come up with why my ex would do this. That a$hole! :mad:

[Lizzie Bee]

Best of luck...