Since I always get romantic advice from a bunch of middle-aged guys that I've never met...

[quentinc]

...I've come here.

So I was talking with a friend the other night about a girl I used to have a thing for last year. Now, I haven't talked to this girl in over a year, nor have I seen her, but at the time, I was really falling hard for her. After telling her about this girl, my friend started badgering me to call her up, start talking to her again, and invite her to this function coming up this Thursday.

Should I go for it?

Pros:
This is probably the last opportunity in my life where I'll ever have the chance to do anything with this girl, who, I should disclose, is absurdly attractive. We hit it off pretty well (or at least I got that impression) back when we still talked, so there was probably something there. And if it doesn't work out, I'm going to be in Maryland 3 1/2 months from now, so no big deal.

Cons:
I'm graduating high school in a month, and with the exception of maybe one or two people, this will be the last time I ever spend time with any of these people ever again. So why not just get wasted and have a good time before we all have to take things seriously and avoid getting involved in any relationship issues right before I move halfway across the country? (I should also point out that I've just recently gotten out of a semi-serious relationship).

Advice would be appreciated.

[canesfan00]

Your story sounds a little bit like the movie "Can't Hardly Wait" made a few years ago with Jenifer Love Hewitt. I don't think you have much to lose if you invite her, especially since you'll eventually be in Maryland with or without her. Whatever the outcome you can still have a good time and get wasted too. You don't want to look back on this time and think about "what could have happened with this girl," do you? Your still young, just don't live your life with any regrets. Hope this helps and good luck.

[Morph]

Go for it, what do you have to lose? This isn’t a game for fools and you won’t live forever. I got into a relationship three months ago (it’s my first relationship, cut me some slack, I am a Smiths fanatic) and I bloody love it, I think it’s great. You should try and woe her and then bang get in there, my son! One word of caution though, your 18th Birthday could be problem, I had mine on the 19th of Last month, and my friends dragged me around in loads of clubs, pubs and bars, when one is drunk everyone looks attractive and hands can wonder.

Good luck, comrade.

[liverbird]

...I've come here.

So I was talking with a friend the other night about a girl I used to have a thing for last year. Now, I haven't talked to this girl in over a year, nor have I seen her, but at the time, I was really falling hard for her. After telling her about this girl, my friend started badgering me to call her up, start talking to her again, and invite her to this function coming up this Thursday.

Should I go for it?

Pros:
This is probably the last opportunity in my life where I'll ever have the chance to do anything with this girl, who, I should disclose, is absurdly attractive. We hit it off pretty well (or at least I got that impression) back when we still talked, so there was probably something there. And if it doesn't work out, I'm going to be in Maryland 3 1/2 months from now, so no big deal.

Cons:
I'm graduating high school in a month, and with the exception of maybe one or two people, this will be the last time I ever spend time with any of these people ever again. So why not just get wasted and have a good time before we all have to take things seriously and avoid getting involved in any relationship issues right before I move halfway across the country? (I should also point out that I've just recently gotten out of a semi-serious relationship).

Advice would be appreciated.

Go for it, son. The worst that'll happen is she turns you down. Where will you be in Maryland. Come down to a DC United game and we'll show you around.

[wemess0]

Surely your sig demands that you go for it, no? Get in there!

[quentinc]

Go for it, son. The worst that'll happen is she turns you down. Where will you be in Maryland. Come down to a DC United game and we'll show you around.
Annapolis (St. John's, not the Naval Academy).

And I guess there's a pretty clear consensus. Wish me luck.

[liverbird]

Annapolis (St. John's, not the Naval Academy).

And I guess there's a pretty clear consensus. Wish me luck.

I know the place well. i used to do research at the Maryland hall of Records which is on the St Johns campus. Do you play croquet? They have a death match with Navy every year in croquet and usually win. I am wishing you best leck. And seriously find you way to RFK -- give me a heads up and I'll get you into the barra.

[quentinc]

I know the place well. i used to do research at the Maryland hall of Records which is on the St Johns campus. Do you play croquet? They have a death match with Navy every year in croquet and usually win. I am wishing you best leck. And seriously find you way to RFK -- give me a heads up and I'll get you into the barra.
Yeah, I know all about the croquet, and from what I observed when I visited, "practice" basically consists of getting an early start on your drinking. I may have to give it the old college try!

[CCSC_STRIKER20]

Yeah, I know all about the croquet, and from what I observed when I visited, "practice" basically consists of getting an early start on your drinking. I may have to give it the old college try!

Yeah definitely gave a lot of activities the old college try, and with the first year of my college career coming to an end. I am quite happy with where I have come...note: sand volleyball all day in the sun with some (a lot) of beer in you is something I wouldn't recommend.

[el-capitano]

I'll play devils advocate- think about your poor self esteem- and the consequences of your actions.

If she looks you up and down and laughs- could this cause serious psychologial damage for years to come :D

You may not be able to ask out a gal anymore, due to the sheer fact you may be embarassed again.

Just kidding- get some balls mate and go ask!

She might be so good looking that no-one has asked her out and you being number one are in poll position.

Now- hows that for advice- I might start my own lonely hearts thread- El-Cap's corner- any takers???? :)

[kopiteinkc]

Tonight's the night then?

We expect a full play by play tomorrow :)

[Morph]

On second thoughts, it’s probably best to remain a singleton, like Morrissey or other celibate people; women are just evil (from my disastrous experiences), they lie to your face and stab you in the back, but don’t take my word for it and please share the information, providing it’s not too graphic. :D

[quentinc]

Tonight's the night then?

We expect a full play by play tomorrow :)
Actually, no. The event in question has been moved to Tuesday. So it's either this weekend, or it's Tuesday.

[usscouse]

A million years ago, back in my California days I went to this party at a beach house in Malibu. At sometime in the night I noticed this "Spectacular" looking lady standing alone. Long dark hair, pale (Stay out of the sun) complexion, bikini clad. A guy walked over to her and said something and she just shook her head and looked passed him at the dancing again as he tried to look cool in front of his friends and walked away.

I thought it was funny, went off and found another beer and someone to dance with. I was enjoying myself. My first year in So Cal and I had a holiday starting in a couple of days and heading for Innsbruck and summer hiking in the Alps.

At times during the evening I found myself looking for a glimpse of this beauty again, she was always alone and always had this slight smile on her face like she was enjoying herself but from the fringes of the main groups.

Later in the evening or morning the smell of burning lawn clippings permeated the air and as always as the grass came out the energy of the party would die. I didn't smoke then or now so I started winding my way through the gang to move out of there and noticed that "the girl" was heading towards the cars as well. I was car less that first year and I thought "Nothing ventured nothing gained" and casually fell in along side of her and started talking like we were life long friends and she caught the moment and responded the same way. Whether it was the scouse accent or what, I dunno but we got to really having a great conversation. She was smart with a cool sense of humour. I mentioned I was heading to Marina Del Rey, she said she was heading for Playa Del Rey could she give me a ride?

It was about 5 hours later and daylight when we got to my place. We'd found a place overlooking the Marina........ and talked the night away. Yes, we talked! We just rolled from subject to subject, books, movies, travel. From the sublime to the ridicules, time just went by. When I got out of the car so did she, locked the door and walked into my place with me as if we done it a dozen times before. That's when the talking stopped but we didn't get to sleep for about another 5 hours. We hit it off there as well.

She was going to USC and hadn't made any plans for her summer so as we were waking up I brought her a cup of coffee and said "Why not come to Innsbruck with me?"

What a wonderful summer. Hiking the Alps, skinny dipping in bloody cold mountain lakes, evenings drinking wine on the banks of the River Inn and somedays not getting out of bed at all!!!

I had to leave there before her to get back to work and when I was getting on the plane to LA she started crying and that last kiss gave me the message that she couldn't tell me......It really was the last time I saw her.



Funny ending though. About ten years or more later I visited my mum in Liverpool and was looking in her personal phone book for a cousins number and 'her' name jumped out at me. Asking my dear old mum about it she said (unknown to me) the girl had written to her that summer asking for a photo of me and they'd stayed in touch for several years. She'd married a Lebanese guy and had a couple of camel jockeys (Her words) for kids, just wanted to know from afar of how I was doing.



So back to your question.........:D
That ended up one of the best summers of my life.
Remember. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Grab life while you can. Two hands if need be, don't live regretting not trying.

[Morph]

If all this goes belly up like my situation then might I suggest Asexuality or celibacy, it’s the safer, cheaper and free alternative to women or men, depending on your preference.

At this moment in time I cannot stand women, they are all the same. :(

[usscouse]

Oh my.....how sad!

[quentinc]

Well, I talked to her briefly, and I suppose it's possible that we might meet up again before I leave, but I've sort of resigned myself to failure.

Of course, I've started falling hard for the aforementioned friend. I'm a hopeless romantic.

[Morph]

Threesome? ;)

[quentinc]

Hmmmm, good point.

It's interesting, because the two girls are actually highly similar (although I guess that isn't surprising).