Have you left behind a sports/soccer widow?

[SirManchester]

There's a big diff between girls you don't care for and one you'll settle down with. You'll find that some things change then, if they didn't it'd mean you don't really care for her. If my GF was a 'throwaway' I'd not change any of my ways, but because she's not, compromise will definitely be a, or the right move.



You're right in your theory, I mean I've been with her for two years now and she's done a sh!tload of things that piss me off and I like to think I deserve better, (not that I'm totally innocent either) but I can't seem to let go of her, even though I definitely don't see myself with her in the future. But like I said earlier, We rarely see each other and I've cut off cell phone calls, which makes it a bit more bearable.

[Dark Savante]

You're right in your theory, I mean I've been with her for two years now and she's done a sh!tload of things that piss me off and I like to think I deserve better, (not that I'm totally innocent either) but I can't seem to let go of her, even though I definitely don't see myself with her in the future. But like I said earlier, We rarely see each other and I've cut off cell phone calls, which makes it a bit more bearable.
lol, the fact you say things like 'bearable' suggests once she's near you for any extended period of time, it'll be curtains for that relationship. Sounds more like you tolerate, rather then adore?

[Vermont Red]

Sounds more like you tolerate, rather then adore?

Probably the way she feels, too.

[SirManchester]

lol, the fact you say things like 'bearable' suggests once she's near you for any extended period of time, it'll be curtains for that relationship. Sounds more like you tolerate, rather then adore?

Well, let's just say I spent a lot of my own time to help her out during hard times, and I haven't gotten any of it back, add the fact that we're both busy and all and it's that much more tedious, PLus we're utterly different, and while I can provide everything she wants (discussions about her interests, etc), she can't really compromise with mine. As bad as this sounds, I've gotten too attached, maybe for my own good.

[Teso Dos Bichos]

What a pitiful thread.

[Vermont Red]

What a pitiful thread.

A youngster like you wouldn't understand. But you will.

[Motterman]

Nevermind Teso, he's probably just seen the Livi score. :p

[GrodZilla]

What a pitiful thread.

sounds as if someone is in a bad mood... wonder why? :p

[Achtung]

Anywho...for those of you with wives or GF's

Well I stopped reading here... :( :o

[Vermont Red]

Well I stopped reading here... :( :o

Zinn and Striker also absent, to the surprise of absolutely no one.

[Achtung]

Well, Striker is an engineering student, and that doesn't leave much time for the ladies to begin with.

[Vermont Red]

Well, Striker is an engineering student, and that doesn't leave much time for the ladies to begin with.

That and the fact that he has no game. :D

[Achtung]

That and the fact that he has no game. :D

That's my excuse. That and my ugliness and frugality.

[Teso Dos Bichos]

A youngster like you wouldn't understand. But you will.

I kick to touch anyone not prepared to live my lifestyle. It's not my fault you guys got trapped. ;)

[Sapphire]

Damn, I actually leave for awhile to get some work done, and I get called up on a thread. :)

I'm probably in the same boat as most of you guys once my hubby lives here. As for now, he's far away, so I am largely compromise-free. While he likes soccer, he's not passionate about it (he has no soul for sports; he just likes whoever's good this week and watches whatever game comes on.) I doubt he fully understands how into United I am; but I'm sure it will be easier to get him to accept my fandom rather than if I were totally into a soap opera or something he couldn't relate to at all. And I'm also sure I'll have to tone it down a bit more when he's here.

I agree with what folks have been saying about compromise. I think you have to compromise -- and have someone who's also willing to compromise (don't be a doormat or an asshole; give and take).

Oh, and I am guilty of prolonged shopping, but I rarely drag a man along -- why, when it just makes him miserable and cranky?? :D

[Sapphire]

Well, let's just say I spent a lot of my own time to help her out during hard times, and I haven't gotten any of it back, add the fact that we're both busy and all and it's that much more tedious, PLus we're utterly different, and while I can provide everything she wants (discussions about her interests, etc), she can't really compromise with mine. As bad as this sounds, I've gotten too attached, maybe for my own good.Sigh, I've totally been in this relationship -- we were together 5 years and didn't want to end it because we had invested so much in each other and were used to each other. It was hard. But, you know, if it doesn't end sooner, it'll end later and be more painful probably. You deserve someone that really is connected to you, and that you're really into. You're a great guy; I know you can find a better situation for yourself. I know you know all this, but -- pep talk, pep talk!

[Sapphire]

That's my excuse. That and my ugliness Um, I don't think so. I've seen your picture . . . If you look at your photo under the cut-out of Giggs, you have the exact same sideburns as he. That's foxy!! :p

[Achtung]

Um, I don't think so. I've seen your picture . . . If you look at your photo under the cut-out of Giggs, you have the exact same sideburns as he. That's foxy!! :p

I was meeting someone once and my description of myself was "look for the guy who looks like he spends way too much time on his sideburns"... :D

Of course I'm also nowhere near as hairy as Giggs... ;)

[SirManchester]

Sigh, I've totally been in this relationship -- we were together 5 years and didn't want to end it because we had invested so much in each other and were used to each other. It was hard. But, you know, if it doesn't end sooner, it'll end later and be more painful probably. You deserve someone that really is connected to you, and that you're really into. You're a great guy; I know you can find a better situation for yourself. I know you know all this, but -- pep talk, pep talk!

Thanks for the kind words, I appreciate it. And while she's a bit airheaded, she's unbelievably nice to me, when a host of other girls just haven't been.
The funny thing here is I have more in common with her mom than her. When all three of us are in the same room, I have hour long discussion with her mom about everything from Hitchcock to AC/DC.

[Sapphire]

Thanks for the kind words, I appreciate it. And while she's a bit airheaded, she's unbelievably nice to me, when a host of other girls just haven't been.
The funny thing here is I have more in common with her mom than her. When all three of us are in the same room, I have hour long discussion with her mom about everything from Hitchcock to AC/DC.Mrs. Robinson?? :D

Seriously, I'm sure she's lovely, but just don't settle, even for the meantime, if you're not 100% into it--that's my advice. Life's really too short, and love can be too amazing. Just think about it and be honest with yourself about it, and I'm sure you'll work it out.