The Anger Thread

[FIFARay007]

Well, we lost our semifinal game tonight. It was my last game with this squad, since "i voluntarily left the company to persure other opportunities", and I was hoping this would be our year to win in indoor. Well it went to golden goal, and we lost. We went for beer after where I toasted everyone and thanked them for putting up with my "encouraging" over the last 5 years. Needless to say I'm upset and will not be sleeping readily. Gonna watch 24 then prolly play some poker.

Time for beer and 24... :mad: :mad: :mad:

[Achtung]

Just got done running at the track. Its so warm here I was in shorts and a t-shirt. :cool:

Have fun in the snow lads. :p

Sounds about like Chicago right now. 40F (warm enough for us to run in shorts anyways) and the 1/2 inch of snow we got over the weekend is pretty much melted.

Of course everyone here is resigned to the fact that we'll have to pay for it at some point.

[FIFARay007]

Anger here I come..... I need to vent and I'm doing it here and now. Sapphire, I'd really like your take on this...

So let's see... I was originally planning to go to VT this week with my g/f. Had the whole thing semi-planned out. Go to Stowe, stay at a place that is near the mt and also has a nice spa. My g/f doesn't ski, but wanted to get away and as long as the place had a spa, she was all set. Stowe is near the Ben & Jerry's factory, Cabot cheese factory, and Vermont Teddy Bear factory, so I figured we could do a lot of those. What would be real special would be going to the Teddy Bear factry and making a teddy bear for the other person. Sweet huh? I wanted to leave yesterday and come back Friday, thus avoiding the craziness that starts this weekend. We'd also save money since it was midweek.

Well turns out this wasn't gonna work for her. The spa wasn't good enough or something. So she picks another place out that has a spa (has the same amenities as the one i had) but is not near Stowe and thus, my plan is shot to hell. Long story short (too late) we didn't go, but thought we could go this weekend with 2 friends of hers, I say fine, thinking we'll still do VT, yet knowing it'll be more expensive. Well her friend suggests Hunter Mt, and for those who don't know it, it's like an hour north of the city, not what I'd call "getting away" which is what she wanted to do originally anyway. So now my whole plan is gone. I don't know why I bother.

To top this wonderful poopstorm off, yesterday I do the dozen roses thing, got her her favorite perfume, and made 2 CD's for her named Sunrise and Sunset. Sunrise had songs to start the day, sunset had songs to end the day, all romantic or meaningful in one way or another. And still my suggestions to go to VT take a backseat to her friend's Hunter suggestion. Yea, the guy who wasn't even going to be going originally.

Someone please help me out here. Am I over-reacting or is this just a little effed up.... part of me thinking it's prime time (no not you prymetyme) to get back to the single's scene....

[Vermont Red]

First of all, this looks like a Woman Thread problem, but I'll help anyway.

As most married men will tell you, your wife/girlfriend will always have a suggestions for "improving" plans that you make. Really, the only way not to deal with this is to not give her any notice or choices. Also, suggestions from friends are almost invariably more welcome than suggestions from you. Third, and most important, trips to Vermont cannot be improved upon by any alternative. It's just a fact.

Your problem illustrates the ultimate paradox in male-female relationships. A woman wants a man to take initiative if and only if the plans he makes are the exact same plans that she would have made. However, if you let her make the plans then she resents that fact that you didn't contribute.

Solution? There really isn't one. The best that you can do is make sure that you can still watch United, drink your Guiness and review your porn. Everything else is subject to change at a moment's notice.

[FIFARay007]

Thanks for the feedback VR.

Update on the standings: I'm now back to being single. We're gonna go back to being friends, which is what I think we were better off as anyway. Was it harsh just a day after V-Day? Perhaps. But it had to be done. I ain't proud. But I'll be drunk in an hour.

[StrikerCW]

Good luck Ray, my friend. Whatever you do will turn out for the best anyway. You will surely have more luck than I on the ladies scene too.

[MtP07]

Thanks for the feedback VR.

Update on the standings: I'm now back to being single. We're gonna go back to being friends, which is what I think we were better off as anyway. Was it harsh just a day after V-Day? Perhaps. But it had to be done. I ain't proud. But I'll be drunk in an hour.

Sorry to hear it.

This one's on me...

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[jayro75]

Thanks for the feedback VR.

Update on the standings: I'm now back to being single. We're gonna go back to being friends, which is what I think we were better off as anyway. Was it harsh just a day after V-Day? Perhaps. But it had to be done. I ain't proud. But I'll be drunk in an hour.


If that's what is for the best then I support you.. and owe you a drink next time i see ya..:D

[FIFARay007]

Thanks guys! Damn the rep limit! I'll be back for y'all. Pub time now!

[billyireland]

First of all, this looks like a Woman Thread problem, but I'll help anyway.

As most married men will tell you, your wife/girlfriend will always have a suggestions for "improving" plans that you make. Really, the only way not to deal with this is to not give her any notice or choices. Also, suggestions from friends are almost invariably more welcome than suggestions from you. Third, and most important, trips to Vermont cannot be improved upon by any alternative. It's just a fact.

Your problem illustrates the ultimate paradox in male-female relationships. A woman wants a man to take initiative if and only if the plans he makes are the exact same plans that she would have made. However, if you let her make the plans then she resents that fact that you didn't contribute.

Solution? There really isn't one. The best that you can do is make sure that you can still watch United, drink your Guiness and review your porn. Everything else is subject to change at a moment's notice.
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Make sure it's near your old workplace. The one you volunteered to take the redunancy package on.

[billyireland]

Sorry to hear it.

This one's on me...

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Are you insane? Don't you know... never, ever drink alcohol with a camera in it.

[MtP07]

Are you insane? Don't you know... never, ever drink alcohol with a camera in it.

Pfffffft...:p

[prymetyme]

dude chicks suck i hear you there, but the best thing you can do from what little experience i have is let her have her way and cater to her. then next time dont let her friend even get involved, you'll probs get laid that way too.

[Sapphire]

Anger here I come..... I need to vent and I'm doing it here and now. Sapphire, I'd really like your take on this...

So let's see... I was originally planning to go to VT this week with my g/f. Had the whole thing semi-planned out. Go to Stowe, stay at a place that is near the mt and also has a nice spa. My g/f doesn't ski, but wanted to get away and as long as the place had a spa, she was all set. Stowe is near the Ben & Jerry's factory, Cabot cheese factory, and Vermont Teddy Bear factory, so I figured we could do a lot of those. What would be real special would be going to the Teddy Bear factry and making a teddy bear for the other person. Sweet huh? I wanted to leave yesterday and come back Friday, thus avoiding the craziness that starts this weekend. We'd also save money since it was midweek.

Well turns out this wasn't gonna work for her. The spa wasn't good enough or something. So she picks another place out that has a spa (has the same amenities as the one i had) but is not near Stowe and thus, my plan is shot to hell. Long story short (too late) we didn't go, but thought we could go this weekend with 2 friends of hers, I say fine, thinking we'll still do VT, yet knowing it'll be more expensive. Well her friend suggests Hunter Mt, and for those who don't know it, it's like an hour north of the city, not what I'd call "getting away" which is what she wanted to do originally anyway. So now my whole plan is gone. I don't know why I bother.

To top this wonderful poopstorm off, yesterday I do the dozen roses thing, got her her favorite perfume, and made 2 CD's for her named Sunrise and Sunset. Sunrise had songs to start the day, sunset had songs to end the day, all romantic or meaningful in one way or another. And still my suggestions to go to VT take a backseat to her friend's Hunter suggestion. Yea, the guy who wasn't even going to be going originally.

Someone please help me out here. Am I over-reacting or is this just a little effed up.... part of me thinking it's prime time (no not you prymetyme) to get back to the single's scene....Sorry to come on so late Ray :(

I was going to ask how long you'd been with this girl, and how important the relationship was to you, etc. I would have encouraged you to let her know the Vermont thing was important to you, or overtly tell her that y'all need to make a compromise -- and see how she reacted. Sometimes I do a bad job of letting people know what I actually want, and then get all pissed off when they don't do want I want -- so I'd thought I'd check that you're being up front with her about what you want.

But it looks like you got it all worked out. Honestly, it sounds like you were super-sweet for Valentine's day (Sunrise and Sunset, that's cool :o ), and her friends were more important to her in this trip, so it doesn't sound like a great scenario for you, especially if she's ignoring what you want when you're communicating it well. Unless you've been dating her for awhile, in which case, I would try to work it out more, unless she's being really crappy to you.

On a sidenote, what's with her friend Hunter having anything to say with where you go? I hate all that group/friend crap when I'm trying to do something with my baby. But I tend to be more of a lone wolf as do my partners, so maybe that's just me. I'd never go on a getaway with the hubby and friends in tow -- I'd go with one or the other. Also, another guy influencing what she does and screwing up your romantic plans -- oh, I'd be a little jealous, honestly. Again, maybe it's just me, but my baby's female friend best not be affecting my plans for a vacation. Seriously.

Hope you're doing ok, anyway. And DON"T DRUNK DIAL TONIGHT!!! :)

[Sapphire]

PS. Ray, I've noticed you've posted alot in the Anger Thread recently. Hope after this change that we'll see you more in the Happiness thread. That's where you belong :p

[StrikerCW]

dude chicks suck i hear you there, but the best thing you can do from what little experience i have is let her have her way and cater to her. then next time dont let her friend even get involved, you'll probs get laid that way too.
Don't ever do that, you have to take control of the woman.

[FIFARay007]

To all who've posted, I only wish this rep thing was easier to give out.

Back from the pub, ain't drinking and dialing. Well, drinking, but not dialing.

Good things from this?
1. Me and her are still friends and will continue that way, since it's just better off for both of us that way.
2. I will DEFINATELY be coming to chicago in april.
3. Beer tastes just as good when ur down.
4. I just feel better about life in general. Less to worry about. :D

[Vermont Red]

Sorry to hear that you're "just friends" now, but you think it's for the best so I guess it's okay. Hang in there. Remember, there's plenty of drunk fish in the sea.

[Motterman]

If she's okay with just being "friends" then you definitely made the right call.

Now go out there and get some "strange". :D

[johno]

First of all, this looks like a Woman Thread problem, but I'll help anyway.

As most married men will tell you, your wife/girlfriend will always have a suggestions for "improving" plans that you make. Really, the only way not to deal with this is to not give her any notice or choices. Also, suggestions from friends are almost invariably more welcome than suggestions from you. Third, and most important, trips to Vermont cannot be improved upon by any alternative. It's just a fact.

Your problem illustrates the ultimate paradox in male-female relationships. A woman wants a man to take initiative if and only if the plans he makes are the exact same plans that she would have made. However, if you let her make the plans then she resents that fact that you didn't contribute.

Solution? There really isn't one. The best that you can do is make sure that you can still watch United, drink your Guiness and review your porn. Everything else is subject to change at a moment's notice.


Firstly, I have to spread... second, I'd like to nominate this for post of the year... communication in a relationship is sooo hard sometimes.

Sorry to hear bout the break up Ray, but if you think you're better off for it, then I'm glad for you.