The Nude, the Bad, and the Jiggly

[antifan]

Where do you live in Deleware?

I've seen the state slogan...but that's about all I know about the state.
Delaware: We Really Do Like The Chemicals In Our Water
I can't point the finger... I'm from New Jersey, aka Chemical World. :D

[jwaldman11]

I can't point the finger... I'm from New Jersey, aka Chemical World. :D
Or as we (and Jim Ross from the WWE) used to call it, "The Shadow of New York City". :D

[antifan]

Or as we (and Jim Ross from the WWE) used to call it, "The Shadow of New York City". :D
Actually, its better known as "The Center of the Known Universe."

ps. Whenever people bust on NJ, i tell them that Jackie O lived there. But seriously, i grew up in Sopranoland, that show is filmed really close to my ancestral home.

[antifan]

I'm turning in for the night, Later.

[jatm516]

Actually, its better known as "The Center of the Known Universe."

ps. Whenever people bust on NJ, i tell them that Jackie O lived there. But seriously, i grew up in Sopranoland, that show is filmed really close to my ancestral home.
I had a neighbor in NC that grew up there too. His brother worked on the set, and he would too sometimes during summer breaks in college.

[HighburyGoon]

Where do you live in Deleware?

I've seen the state slogan...but that's about all I know about the state.
Delaware: We Really Do Like The Chemicals In Our Water


I live in Newark, which is where the University of Delaware is. The official state motto is, "It's good to be first", which alludes to the fact that Delaware was the first state to sign the Constitution. However, the one that everybody thinks of is "Home of tax-free shopping."

As for the chemicals, yeah, it's pretty crazy with DuPont, but in recent years, it's been more about the banks - MBNA, Chase, BoA, First USA, etc...

[HighburyGoon]

OK, while I don't want this to turn into Mike's personal therapy thread, there is something really bothering me today that I need to share...

Last night, my ex-girlfriend took me out to dinner for my birthday. While we were out, she told me we needed to stop by her parents' as they had a surprise for me. It was easy to figure out what the surprise was, as her mom's lemon merange pie had been my birthday favorite for every year of the seven we were together. However, once we got to the house, not only was there pie, but they had hung up a "Happy Birthday" banner, and a huge pile of presents for me. My ex had no prior knowledge of anything but the pie, so she was as surprised as I was, but in a good way.

Now, just under twenty-four hours ago, I was feeling great, as I had just made that date with the girl from Match.com, now I feel depressed as hell.

It's obvious that my ex's parents miss me, and that just makes me really sad, as I miss them almost as much as I miss their daughter. During dinner, my ex let slip that she had gone out with someone she met on Match on Saturday night, and I found myself getting upset - even though I have a date lined up for Friday.

Well, that's it really, just typing what's on my mind. I can't really share it with anyone else, because they all think I should just move on, but, with nights like last night, it's just harder than I ever imagined.

Thanks.

[arsenalgirl30016]

Damn Mike-back in the other thread I thought the world was going good for you and now this stuff- :(
7 years is hard to just walk away from but it will be hard to move on if you keep seeing the ex. Is there any chance you guys are going to get back together?

[yossarian]

OK, while I don't want this to turn into Mike's personal therapy thread, there is something really bothering me today that I need to share...

Last night, my ex-girlfriend took me out to dinner for my birthday. While we were out, she told me we needed to stop by her parents' as they had a surprise for me. It was easy to figure out what the surprise was, as her mom's lemon merange pie had been my birthday favorite for every year of the seven we were together. However, once we got to the house, not only was there pie, but they had hung up a "Happy Birthday" banner, and a huge pile of presents for me. My ex had no prior knowledge of anything but the pie, so she was as surprised as I was, but in a good way.

Now, just under twenty-four hours ago, I was feeling great, as I had just made that date with the girl from Match.com, now I feel depressed as hell.

It's obvious that my ex's parents miss me, and that just makes me really sad, as I miss them almost as much as I miss their daughter. During dinner, my ex let slip that she had gone out with someone she met on Match on Saturday night, and I found myself getting upset - even though I have a date lined up for Friday.

Well, that's it really, just typing what's on my mind. I can't really share it with anyone else, because they all think I should just move on, but, with nights like last night, it's just harder than I ever imagined.

Thanks.

Sounds like you care about your ex's family a lot. Any chance you two can just be good friends and you can maintain the good terms with her parents...if it means that much to you?

[Gunner Phan]

Kind of ironic that guys in their late 20s-early 30s would be all over a 23 year old.

stupid older ladies! ;) alas, I would be quite phond of phinding a Demi. :p

[Gunner Phan]

Mike,

I know what yer going through...just coming off it myself. I would say when the good memories pop up or you start thinking about the visit to her parents, you should think about the bad times you had with her. If the new good memory plus the old outweigh the times you were cursing her name, then you might want to reconsider going out with the new chick. Until then, keep your date.

[jatm516]

Ryan's still lookin' for his suga mama!

[jatm516]

First of all, HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!

Carry on with the date, Mike. Anyone would be down after last night. I frankly can't relate too much because my parents are such mean hateful annoying people that they have never like one single date me, my brother, or even my stepbrothers have ever had.

It sounds like you had an awkward situation to begin with going out with your ex just when you were starting to make progress from being apart from someone that you devoted 7 years to, and the parents probably meant well but in reality made it even more awkward.

It is never easy to hear about your ex dating someone else. Not even when you have a date planned yourself. So i think your reaction is normal, but there is just not a whole lot you can do about it. Just put one foot in front of the other, go to work, and go on that date.

[HighburyGoon]

Sounds like you care about your ex's family a lot. Any chance you two can just be good friends and you can maintain the good terms with her parents...if it means that much to you?
Yeah, I really do care. They always treated me like a son. Some of the gifts they gave me last night were hand made by her mom, so it's obvious that she put a lot of time, thought, and effort into this.

Trying to remain friends is something we're attempting, it's just proving to be very hard. However, the alternative - never speaking again - seems unthinkable to me (as it does to her too.)

Damn Mike-back in the other thread I thought the world was going good for you and now this stuff- :(
7 years is hard to just walk away from but it will be hard to move on if you keep seeing the ex. Is there any chance you guys are going to get back together?

A couple of weeks ago I told her that I felt that we owed it to ourselves and to each other to try again. She replied that while she loved spending time with me, and wants to continue to see me, she doesn't want it to be exclusive, just yet. So, you would think that would be clear enough, but it's not. I keep thinking about the "just yet," like Rob from High Fidelity.

Mike,

I know what yer going through...just coming off it myself. I would say when the good memories pop up or you start thinking about the visit to her parents, you should think about the bad times you had with her. If the new good memory plus the old outweigh the times you were cursing her name, then you might want to reconsider going out with the new chick. Until then, keep your date.

I think that's what making this really hard. There aren't really any bad memories to speak of. I mean, sure we would have arguements. What couple doesn't? What it really boils down to is that she just got scared. I wanted to get married, and she didn't.

What really tears me apart is that she apparently fell into a rebound relationship with a much older guy shortly after we broke up. He dumped her, and she confessed to me that she's really upset about that. I can understand feeling upset over rejection, but I couldn't help feeling a bit hurt myself. I felt like, "Seven years with me, and she's over it a in week, but a few weeks with him, and she's devestated." I actually told her this, and she said, "You know that's not true."

So, the thing that keeps playing over in my head is, "What does she expect to find out there that I didn't provide?"

OK, so while all of this is going on in my heart, my head is telling me that I have to get out there and meet other women, thus my involvement on Match, and making the date with this girl on Friday.

Man, this is really effecting my productivity at work today, and is threatening to ruin my birthday celebrations this week (one of which my ex is coming to on Wednesday). I just don't know how to turn my head off.

[Bighorn]

....wants to continue to see me, she doesn't want it to be exclusive, just yet. So, you would think that would be clear enough, but it's not.

What it really boils down to is that she just got scared. I wanted to get married, and she didn't.

So, the thing that keeps playing over in my head is, "What does she expect to find out there that I didn't provide?"

This is all pretty heavy ********, Mike.

It sounds like she loves you but has some serious commitment fears.

The Love Dr. prescribes....
Relationship therapy if she's willing to work on it

or

Cut her off entirely. She's gettting the best of both worlds now. The emotional connection and stability with you but the fun and excitement of playing the field as well. This does not mean she won't come back when she realizes what she is missing. In fact, it might be the only way to get her to realize it. Let it go. If it doesn't come back to you...well, it wasn't really yours to begin with.

It's not easy. Good luck to you.
Matt

[jwaldman11]

Yeah, I really do care. They always treated me like a son. Some of the gifts they gave me last night were hand made by her mom, so it's obvious that she put a lot of time, thought, and effort into this.

Trying to remain friends is something we're attempting, it's just proving to be very hard. However, the alternative - never speaking again - seems unthinkable to me (as it does to her too.)

A couple of weeks ago I told her that I felt that we owed it to ourselves and to each other to try again. She replied that while she loved spending time with me, and wants to continue to see me, she doesn't want it to be exclusive, just yet. So, you would think that would be clear enough, but it's not. I keep thinking about the "just yet," like Rob from High Fidelity.

I think that's what making this really hard. There aren't really any bad memories to speak of. I mean, sure we would have arguements. What couple doesn't? What it really boils down to is that she just got scared. I wanted to get married, and she didn't.

What really tears me apart is that she apparently fell into a rebound relationship with a much older guy shortly after we broke up. He dumped her, and she confessed to me that she's really upset about that. I can understand feeling upset over rejection, but I couldn't help feeling a bit hurt myself. I felt like, "Seven years with me, and she's over it a in week, but a few weeks with him, and she's devestated." I actually told her this, and she said, "You know that's not true."

So, the thing that keeps playing over in my head is, "What does she expect to find out there that I didn't provide?"

OK, so while all of this is going on in my heart, my head is telling me that I have to get out there and meet other women, thus my involvement on Match, and making the date with this girl on Friday.

Man, this is really effecting my productivity at work today, and is threatening to ruin my birthday celebrations this week (one of which my ex is coming to on Wednesday). I just don't know how to turn my head off.
There's a great quote from "Family Guy" (yes, a serious one...I was shocked too!) when Brian is in love with Lois and he asks her "Has your heart ever wanted to ask something but your head was too afraid of what the answer might be?" I think that's pretty appropriate for this situation, as your head is thinking one thing, but your heart still thinks there is a chance. But, if she's not willing to give it that chance at the moment, waiting for it does you no good. You need to go out Friday and see what happens. As I told my friend who's having a problem where he can't let go, you might actually find something better. You just neve know.

And by the way, I'm a little frightened at the moment myself, as my girlfriend called and said that her family might be staying in the same building I am tonight. I just hope I don't have any late visitors!

[Gunner Phan]

Man, this is really effecting my productivity at work today, and is threatening to ruin my birthday celebrations this week (one of which my ex is coming to on Wednesday). I just don't know how to turn my head off.


(to phishy)

Can I get a "Sparkle" S.T.A.T.?

[HighburyGoon]

(to phishy)

Can I get a "Sparkle" S.T.A.T.?

:) - Thanks Ryan. Remembering that today would have been Jerry Garcia's birthday, I brought "Garcia" to work to listen to. Big mistake, ********ing "To Lay Me Down" My God, is that song depressing!


She's gettting the best of both worlds now. The emotional connection and stability with you but the fun and excitement of playing the field as well. This does not mean she won't come back when she realizes what she is missing. In fact, it might be the only way to get her to realize it. Let it go. If it doesn't come back to you...well, it wasn't really yours to begin with.

Yeah, that's sort of the conclusion I'm coming to...I just like being around her too much.

There's a great quote from "Family Guy" (yes, a serious one...I was shocked too!) when Brian is in love with Lois and he asks her "Has your heart ever wanted to ask something but your head was too afraid of what the answer might be?" I think that's pretty appropriate for this situation, as your head is thinking one thing, but your heart still thinks there is a chance. But, if she's not willing to give it that chance at the moment, waiting for it does you no good. You need to go out Friday and see what happens. As I told my friend who's having a problem where he can't let go, you might actually find something better. You just neve know.

Thanks for the Family Guy ref - I love that show. I totally plan on going on that date on Friday night, but here's the thing - my ex and I have plans for Saturday night. Do I break them? I don't really want to. It seems to me like the shallow thing to say would be to wait to see how Friday night turns out, but, there may be more truth to that than I care to admit.

[Gunner Phan]

:) - Thanks Ryan. Remembering that today would have been Jerry Garcia's birthday, I brought "Garcia" to work to listen to. Big mistake, ********ing "To Lay Me Down" My God, is that song depressing!





in that case:

"All that's left to do is smile, smile, smile."

and

pop in a little diddy who's video contained a celtics jacket.

[Bighorn]

********ing "To Lay Me Down" My God, is that song depressing!

Maybe try Brokedown Palace as a pick me up? ;)

Yeah, that's sort of the conclusion I'm coming to...I just like being around her too much.


I know man.
It's love. That's how it works.