Strippers and Drunken Debauchery - The Happiness Thread XI

Basically, I hook up with a lot of sluts. Am I complaining, yes, I am; yes I am being for reals. Unlike Nimma's area, girls are easy here and it does not take much to hook up with them. And I think about that, I say I do not want a long term relationship with girl X. In fact, girl X, let us just do a two night stand thing. Even if I were to date them for a short time, I do not know what I would learn from it as couple of you gentlemen has noted.


I know you could counter that by saying I, pizzarito, need to find other girls. But the lifestyle, my living situation, and circle of friends, I do not have that opportunity to find many of them. And, when I do find that girl that I could say, "yah noe, I cud imagin myself wit dis shorty 4 a fyoo yeerz", they become extremely insecure or possessive or what not.

True that.

It almost seems as if my life has been showing me how not to be a dad (two of my cousins have been abandoned by their dad, two more have an alcoholic father, one of my grandfathers was an abusive alcoholic and is now dead while the other is a chronic gambler and was abandoned by his family).

If I do have a kid there's no excuse not to be a good father because I've been shown damn near every mistake a father could make.

Perhaps it is my age. In my previous post, I mentioned my environment but I did not mention age. It is a combo of things I guess.

I am glad that you met your wife and the right time at the stage in your life.

I am the young one in my true circle of friends. But I do have general friends in all ages and race and orientation.

Right after high school, where my classmates got pregnant at a young age, they tried to settle down but it is a huge battle. It is very similar to an awesome show I watch but none of you guys seemed to respond to it - Teen Mom. I look at that and say, sheeee iit.

Then I look at my friends who are in their late 20's and early 30, and they are just as like me where they party and have no responsibility. It is not where I look up to that, but it is more of a that is my only influence in life and it seems that that is the direction I "should" be going at.

But you do have to look into the long future, though. Unless it is a one or two night stand, you do have to look at the long term of the girl you are dating. You do not go into a relationship and think there is a time limit or finite time to how long the relationship will last.

Yeah, my upbringing was by no means rough at all, but the parents did divorce at age 10. Damn, I put my mom through hell when I look back. No pops, just money in the mail, and a couple visits a year. Shit was roughest on my mom - Indian culture seems to assume it's always the woman's fault, even when it was my dad effin around on her, shit her own fam didn't talk to her for awhile.

That's what makes me so hesitant to marry. It's gotta be for real cause I'm not playing that game.

Sapph's hit the nail on the head. I've been putting some massive days in at work for the past 6 months or so, 12-16 hr days usually, which generally leave me pretty drained and mentally wiped out. But when I get home, and my little guy looks up at me and smiles, it completely makes my day. He's only 4 months, so he's not at the "dada" stage yet, but that smile alone makes everything alright.

You are saying as if they will fall all over guys like Dominoes.......Is it true??....I am asking because its a hell of a lot of effort just to get to 2.5 bases here.....

When we had our daughter, my husband told me that he wouldn't be able to handle changing diapers at all. He was unsure if he wanted to be in the room when she was born. We discussed that the culture he was raised in has men having almost zero involvement with child-rearing and, while he wanted to do more than his dad did, he just genuinely didn't know how he would react to fatherhood.

Yeah, well, she's now the biggest daddy's girl you've ever seen, and she has him absolutely wrapped around his finger. He changes diapers, baby talks with her, bathes her, feeds her, rocks her to sleep, puts her in matchy-matchy pink dresses and does her hair: I'm telling you, he'd breastfeed her if he had tata's. Your own child will mean the world to you if/when you have one; I think though, like any time you fall in love, there's an element of choice. If you choose to be an engaged parent, you will adore your child. And while it's hard to be a parent, the difficulty of it just doesn't bother you, like Ray pointed out.

Dude, my current roommate brings over a new girl almost every god damn night and my other roommate is just as worse but a little more chill than that.


I mean you gotta have some game to it. I mean I consider myself not to be a bad looking guy and ok, but if I became a wall paper at party or hit on a girl about liking my buttons with a creepy look, then I would go home with nobody.

That's very comforting Saph, thanks. I think I'll save your posts in this thread and put them in a new parenting folder to go along with my smiley and funny forum gif folders.

Some good posts in here concerning parenthood. Actually rather encouraging.