I understand this site is mainly for older soccer players. However, (please) I need some information with your younger experience playing soccer. My son is 8 years old and this upcoming season will play travel soccer in U9. My son has fantastic footskills, extremely quick, and he will steal the ball from his U12 sister and he doesn't have a problem taking her down when they are outside fooling around with the ball. When he gets comfortable with the boys who are on his team, and they are scrimmaging, he will get in there and really play the game. However, the minute a tournament game starts or if he is at practice with kids he doesn't know...it is like he is terrified. He waits for the ball to be given to him. He isn't aggressive. Sometimes if the ball is kicked hard towards him, he flinches. He acts like he is getting into position and he calls for the ball but, then when it is passed to him, he leaves just enough time for the other kid to take it. Now, there are times when he turns into the kid I see playing in the backyard during a game but there are not many times and they don't last long. He is a tiny 8 year old. Comparing to the kids in his class at school, he usually falls either last or next to last (in height). Obviously, neither my husband or myself are giants. However, I see other tiny kids, who play soccer, and they are right in there and are playing aggressive and are all over the field. My husband played soccer up until college but he was one of those aggressive little kids. My question to you fellows out there is..... When you were young (U8 U9) were you really aggressive on the field? Were any of you afraid like my son and then came out of your shell in U10 or U11? Can you let me know when you started to play the game and what type of player where you in your younger years? Please don't be rude, I am truly just seeking some information here. I know that my son may need to move on to another sport. However, some people say it is too young to tell. So, I thought if I can get some background on some guys who are still playing the game then I could have a little insight on what to do. I have been reading on this forum for weeks and I am really impressed that you don't have these people who constantly leave terrible and rude comments. You guys give true advice and don't seem to down anyone who has a question.