Boppero presents - The Doña Thread Vol III

well with the threat of telling me she will take the kids to the new school this monday, I think time for compromise is over. at least for her.

believe me, I want to stay away from the courts, and I want to compromise.

the thing is I dont want to compromise what I dont have, I cannot afford to pay the 200.00 all on my own. im looking for alternatives to get money, im looking for a rommmate right now as a matter of fact, if I do get a roommate, them im good and ill pay

It's a little crazy then.

You're still in love with her aren't you?

I don't know....my brother was and is continuing to get pwned by his ex.

Here's some links...give'em a call.

help4dad.com

dadslawyer.com

dadsrights.com

dadsrights.org

thats irrelevant now, she has a boyfriend but she claims its her really good friend

but I do care for her and I honor the past that we had, which was a good 11 years of marriage... im a boy scout

I think this is the best you can do, spermdawg. This woman has turned on you and, on a very deep level, may actually derive pleasure in placing your kids in a school that's bad for them, not because she hates her kids or is a bad mom but because she knows how much psychological harm this does to you.

Do your best to get the room mate and hopefully you'll have the money to keep your children in a good school. Remember that housing is a market and you're very motivated to get money. I'm sure if you drop rent low enough someone will agree to be your room mate with enough ease. Do whatever it takes, you know.

The problem with getting a lawyer is that it's going to cost you money you don't have.But based on what you posted, it seems she is been selfish and not looking after what's best for your kids. So you may have to go the legal route with this. Both of you have to start thinking about what you can do to come up with an extra $25 a week. Sell your blood if you have to, but don't let the kids pay for your mistakes.
Consider looking for legal assistance and be prepared to shield your kids from all the crap.

I'm not as old and wise as metalero but I'd really try to avoid lawyers because I don't know if they can help and they won't be free.

You might have to tighten your belt and take one for your kids this time. If later issues come up then you can take legal action and mention this situation to a possibly receptive judge or jury to demonstrate how selfish and irresponsible your ex is... although even that will be a far shot considering how much the law favors mothers.

The question, if you guys can't come up with a friendly agreement is: what's next. Typically problems will continue to come up, specialy when there are kids involved, so you have to seek some kind of protection for your self and your kids. Verbal agrements seldom work in cases like this.

No jury in these kind of matters. There's a person who serves as a judge and really isn't a judge, kind of like an arbitrator.

The other angle you can take is to fight for physical custody of your children, which is probably something that you may not want. I'm not sure if you can. The problem is that the person who has physical custody usually decides where the children go to school - almost by default. In Jersey, the public school you go to depends on what area you live in. So if your kids live with her at the moment she could just say, they live with me, they're supposed to go to this school and your f*cked. Also, if you have custody she gets to pay YOU child support.

"Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned"

If she doesn't feel bad taking away from your kids livelyhood and education, they you shouldn't feel bad for her in any way. Picture her and her really good, extra special "friend" getting it on, it works.

Grow some balls son.

How does putting your children in a new school work. Does she have to sign paperwork or anything? I dont have kids, so im just curious. It cant be that easy that you just take them somewhere else and say "Theyre going to school here now," is it?

At some point you may have to turn to the courts. Sucks, but its a reality. Especially if she's going to antagonize you. Today its this issue, tomorrow it could be something else. Its not easy when the relationship is over. Sometimes egos get in the way of whats best for the kids.

Lol. If you get one, i hope your new roomate doesnt like soccer, they may not know what theyre getting into with your Lavolpe/Campos/Nery love and Hernandez/Chivas bashing.

I should explain something, I got the hyatt legal plan. which pays for a lawyer kinda like legal insurance, my work provides it for their employees for a premium. and I plan to use it if its covered. now things just got alot worse. thru some unfortunate events, I dont have transportation anymore. I dont know what im gonna do.

look into that.

because most of the prepaid legal service companies don't touch divorce/custody battles

I have and got a claim number...


I will update this...

I just watched this movie........................................huh...........

my parents have cock blocked long enough.

i need to move out.

Pern is looking for a roomie. Just lay down some ground rules and tell him that when you bring home a Filipina he isnt allowed to hide under the bed or in the closet and watch/listen. He has to do that outside of the bedroom door.

Two birds with one stone.

hahaha no mames.

i've been trying for most of the year .

problem is that i don't trust most of my friends enough to move in with (and many people have told me its a bad idea) and i haven't found people i trust.

move to az get new friends

(yes im that desperate for a roommate that ill even take guado )

Moving out would have its perks. Ill wait until I graduate and have a stable job though.

Anyway.

How often do you guys text a girl you like? I started talking to a girl from school but she seems involved around campus..busy..so idk if shes the type to be texting randomly. I dont want to be the one texting her all the time either.

You have to be careful with friends. Ive seen plenty of friendships break up because its one thing to just hang out with someone but another thing entirely to live with them. You dont know if they do laundry on time, if they provide food to eat or just eat yours, who they invite over that you dont know, and just things like that.

But it sounds like Pern wouldnt mind you. He PM'ed me and told me that he would be Michael Jackson and you can be Macaulay Culkin.

Def don't text all the time. Don't seem like your too available either. Shit ur busy too aren't you?

Text something witty, funny or just a what's up? (But only when you want to get together) if she says she's busy then be like alright let me get back to you some other time then.

phone convo and texting should be short, sweet and to the point. UNLESS you get to the point where it's obvious flirting, then you can text away. But at the beginning, always keep the phone convo pretty short.

i personally hate having a phone conversation, especially if it last for more than 10 minutes. i much prefer texting

I don't like the phone either but i really like to skype.

I dont like phone conversations either, unless were together.

I do prefer Skype over phone though.

I didnt text the girl for like 2 days, then i text today, got no response.

On to the next one.